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If your girlfriend is important to you but you have had a recent break up, you may find the following advice important to help you win her heart again. You’re probably feeling that you can’t wait to make amends, and quite impatient to either explain to her why breaking up was not a good idea, or to persuade her to give you another chance, for you are willing to do everything to change. Although this impatient urge of yours is an understandable and natural reaction on your part, it is crucial that you realize that if you go ahead an act upon your feelings, you may ruin your last chance with her. For what you must understand is that even though you would love to reason with her, she, at present, is not at the right emotional stage to react well to your desire to reason. While she is still in the heat of emotion, just like you experienced yourself before, she may interpret your cool reasoning as condescending or manipulative. She will be annoyed with you for trying to show her that you are right and that she is wrong in her thinking. What you have going for you at the moment, is that she is having doubts whether it was a good thing to break up. Do be patient and stop yourself from trying to communicate and reason with her too soon before she’s ready. The danger is that in annoying her you may destroy her growing doubts about the wisdom of breaking up, and you will lose this important chance that you have at getting back together.  This is the right way of getting back with an ex.